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Updated September 15, 2014.

The preface

In some of my articles, I end up with a section I call "The Bottom Line". Emphasizes the point of the article. Here I am going to start with a "Foreword", because I believe it is important to get the message at first.

Some topics are sensitive. Some people are sensitive. No hypersensitive - just a little sensitive. This is to cope with difficult situations. This is normal. For example, illness, pain, loss and abuse are just some of the sticky wickets that can increase our sensitivity.

If you had one of these things first hand, you probably know that when people come to you, even with the best intentions, can something be wrong to say. The thing "thing" often wrong, but the last point here is well intentioned people -.... not offend you try anything wrong to say, just not what I say or what you prefer to hear.

I also do

I'm not about to do it yourself. Last year, died unexpectedly one of my dearest friends. I kept in touch with his daughter on Facebook. When my friend's daughter expresses deep sorrow on Facebook posts, I tend to position expressed as the pain in my own experience was for me. On second thought, I know I'm not always say the right thing. Pain is very personal. You can not, nor its planned course.

My best advice is for people to manage their words through a filter in the head and test. Would you like embarrassing what they say? But it's hard to. On the one hand, we have no time to send word through a filter before starting on his mouth most of the time. Second, the world is not wrinkled or bent by the same word or words.

It is also true that, if we knew better, better. When we use the words that the potential to transform a smile with a frown to learn to avoid them. It is only a matter of steering clear of some words that currently can kill some joy for some people, or some hair.

To avoid words

I asked a group of people with arthritis in their opinion about the words cock-tornadoes are possible. The consensus was that these four words have the potential to cause a negative reaction:

• Disabled person
• paralyzed
• Disabled person
• Victim

At this point you may be thinking: "Hey, those are just words." You might think that people with arthritis suffer from pain. Have physical limitations. They can do what they want to do. Arthritis can make building and are disabled. You are not wrong. But people with arthritis summon all the strength and courage that they did not feel like a victim, do not feel hurt not feel handicapped, disabled, or otherwise. Living with arthritis is normal.

Adapt people with arthritis to live with a chronic illness. They make the necessary adjustments to maintain a normal operation to continue, as far as possible. Accept arthritis as part of their lives, but do not feel that the disease define who they are.

This is not the end of the world if you, the right thing to say for someone living with arthritis or any other person who is facing difficulties. People are forgiven, after all. But maybe we can all do more. We can know a little more what we say. Maybe if someone you have arthritis, can transfer a call to the language that they prefer to be clarified. If you have arthritis, to talk and share their feelings. We should not expect people to know them. You have not spent our shoes.